I recently witnessed a wonderful aha moment in a board meeting where the focus had been so targeted to certain areas that the other possibilities were left in the dark, until I, an external board member, asked about them. Once the options become visible to us, we wonder how we did not see them before.
That’s what happens to all of us, we see only what we focus on. When we widen the horizon, we see other possibilities instead of the one or two options that our minds have been working on. Easier to be said than done when we are all stressed and trying very hard to know what to do next.
Change to something new or different requires confidence in our ability to take the necessary steps and to utilise the resources we have. Having a conversation with someone can help us see not only other possibilities but also our abilities to reach them.
I myself thought for years that the only thing I could do was to continue to do what I had already been doing for years. I finally made that one a big jump towards something new. It was not an easy decision. I have been very lucky to have a confidant to whom I can speak out my thoughts, doubts and fears and who in return has given his everlasting support and confidence in me.
I see my role as a solution provider, whether I work as a coach, mentor, consultant or a board member; helping my customers to clarify their goals and taking them from where they are now to where they want to be. The value of it is the value of reaching that goal. The journey is a great adventure for both but here unlike in my traveling, the goal is what matters.